What You THINK You Want In A Partner Is Ruining Your Love Life

About this episode

I chat with a top relationship researcher who shares shocking data on what actually leads to a compatible, successful relationship. If you want to know if you’ve found the one, or what you should actually be looking for while dating, this episode is for you. Dr. Paul Eastwick is a professor of psychology at UC Davis. He has led dozens of studies on the science of attraction, and he's the author of the best-selling book Bonded By Evolution. In this episode, he shares the real data around the relationship questions or thoughts we’ve all had. 🎧 What you’ll learn: • Why the traits we think matter most for compatibility (values, politics, looks) barely predict long-term relationship success • What men and women actually want in a partner vs. what they say they want • The two-part psychological framework that predicts whether your relationship will thrive long-term • Why physical attraction to your partner works completely differently than "objective" hotness • The real reason attraction fades and how couples can bring it back • The #1 warning sign that a relationship is heading toward a breakup • Why "love at first sight" happens to some people and not others • The truth abou