432 Why You Keep Breaking Promises to Yourself

About this episode

What if the reason you keep breaking promises to yourself isn’t because you’re lazy or undisciplined—but because some part of you still hears boundaries as control? In this episode, we dive into internal boundaries: the loving limits we set with ourselves to protect our health, energy, relationships, values, and future. For ADHD adults, these boundaries can be especially difficult to honor. Time blindness, impulsivity, discomfort intolerance, perfectionism, and a lifetime of rebelling against rules can make even reasonable limits feel restrictive. But internal boundaries aren’t about deprivation. They’re about self-trust. You’ll learn why unrealistic “fantasy boundaries” backfire, how your childhood experiences with rules may still be influencing you, and how to create limits that actually support the life you want. Kristen also shares practical examples around sleep, food, work, spending, alcohol, relationships, and connecting with your future self. If you’ve ever thought, Why can’t I just do what I told myself I was going to do?—press play. Internal boundaries might be the missing piece. Preorder You're Not in Trouble here! Want help with your ADHD?